From the Editor’s Desk: Okay ladies, we know that one of the sentences we’ve heard said from childhood, in the over 500 languages spoken in Nigeria, is that ‘men are scarce’… and this is in face of the fact that the Nigerian Population Council busted this myth in the last census carried out whereby the male population made up 54.9% of the population.
So, really, there are more men than women in Nigeria.
But just yesterday, the amazing Ms. Funmi Iyanda, in about three to four tweets, finally put this ‘scarcity of men’ myth where it deserved to be, 6 feet underground.
Listen to her…
“Women are socialized (to be) too invested in men’s fidelity. Spending a lifetime trying to find or keep a man. It’s exhausting, tedious and boring.”
Do men know that women cheat?
“Men know that women cheat but are not as invested because they are not socialized to define themselves by scarcity of women.”
If men are not scarce then what is?
“Men are not scarce. A meaningful life is scarce. Pain is part of finding meaning. No one cheats anyone. We own no one but ourselves.
Live!”
…Oh and a final one on being ‘singus pringus’
“I’m a woman, I’m unmarried. I’m not a “single lady”. I’ve companionship. My high status needs no justification…”
No. More. Words.
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I’m an unmarried woman who wants to one day be married to someone comparable to me. Suitable too.
I won’t do whatever to be married though.
I will marry when I meet someone I don’t want to live without, who loves ms as Christ loves the church.
Cheers
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…and we believe you will!
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On point.
Her responses were true and many who are struggling with their ego will murmur and disagree with her.
But who their murmur help?
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